While you might feel alone at this time, there are many options you can utilize to stay in touch with people. These online outlets offer great ways to connect with friends and family, if only just to chat. Still, if keeping in touch is not enough to keep you motivated and on track with your schedule and recovery, it might be time for you and a friend to plan and achieve your goals together.
Accountability is important to achieving any goal in life. For recovery, accountability could even keep you from relapse by reinforcing your positive actions and behaviors. Accountability offers you the benefits of staying focused, motivated, and responsible—and these benefits often lead to a sense of total freedom.
The first step to holding yourself accountable is to open up. Your recovery has taught you that avoidance can only lead you down a negative path. This time is difficult, and there is a call for action, so you need to be more transparent with your friends and family. Admit what you are going through, and express how hard you have had to work to get to this point. Most importantly, express that you are determined to keep going despite the current challenges your recovery is facing. Just speaking a thought has the power to create a truth. When expressing that you are going to put in the work, you are not only beginning to manifest truth, but when telling others, you are entering an agreement with them that will help to hold you accountable.
Be Honest and Reasonable
Choosing sobriety should be the only option on the table at any point during your recovery, and expressing your determination to do so to friends and family is a great way to begin that journey. However, you must understand that there are going to be challenges and setbacks, and your friends and family need to be aware of this, too. This honesty strengthens the support between yourself and those wanting you to succeed. So don’t pressure yourself to need to be invincible from the start, you are ultimately doing this for you, and your friends and family are only there for support.
When situations get tough, you need to be prepared. Friends and family might not be enough to get you through. This is because they typically do not fully understand what it takes to be sober, since they likely have never gone through it. This is why you might consider finding a fellow friend from your recovery program (or a friend from your online recovery program) to partner up with. Those in recovery understand the gravity that can surround any given choice, and offer better support because they understand what you are going through. Given the current times, many in recovery are experiencing the same fears and anxieties. Find a friend you trust who is trying to accomplish what you are. Set up regular times to check in on one another, and leave yourselves open for availability when one might need help. This will help you when you are feeling triggered. Talk through your problems. Remember, this is not a competition; accountability partners need to agree that this is about reaching the summit together.
Isolation can be an easy option right now, because dismissing people is as easy as shutting off a phone or computer. This is why it is important to maintain contact with your partner and your family. Since the times are unique, each day has the chance to be unique, too. If you are feeling like you are becoming isolated, remember that these thoughts and days are passing, but your recovery remains the same. If you happen to have rules in place to keep in touch on a weekly or daily basis, share your feelings with your partner if you are having any doubt over the stability of your recovery. This frequent connection will help you to keep from sliding deeper into negative thoughts.
Talk With Your Partner About What There Is to Gain and Lose
Sobriety is all about making gains, while addiction is all about loss. If things become too hard, try to look at what you have to gain from sobriety, and what your addiction has taken away. Are you willing to put all of your relationships at risk again? Are you willing to compromise your health and peace of mind? Where would your life be if you were still drinking? Would you have as much support? When you and a friend can discuss what you have to gain or lose, you will realize that the challenges to recovery are much more worth pursuing than the challenges of using drugs or alcohol. This partnership will help you to make your decision to choose sobriety easier.
Accountability is the key to any success. It takes work to hold yourself to a plan; however, the benefits are much greater than the alternative. Sometimes by default, you might find it easier and even more comforting to take what seems like the path of least resistance and have a drink to cope. If you are struggling to maintain recovery or get motivated to take action to spark accountability in your life, understand that you are not alone and that there is help. True Recovery offers 24/7 help and can provide customized care designed to restore the quality of life you deserve. To get help today, please call us at (866)-399-6528.