It is a pretty cliche saying at this point, but there is some truth to it: you don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone. It’s a popular phrase for a reason and there are a lot of different meanings that can come from it. Whether it’s not truly cherishing the time with a loved one until they have passed to appreciating your job until you’ve moved on to a more stressful one. It really is hard to stay grounded at the moment and understand that those things around us are truly blessings. We are so focused and caught up in everything else that we have trouble taking the time to just look at the basic things around us that are always there. Their consistent presence causes us to become comfortable and that causes us to only notice the things that aren’t consistent. It happens to us all the time in so many different ways. This applies, more than anything, to the people around us. Our friends, our family, our loved ones are always there for us, through everything including our recovery process, and we can find ourselves not necessarily taking advantage of them, but not taking the time to cherish them in the way that we should.
It goes beyond just our comfort in having them around; it also pertains to the fact that we can find it so hard to express our appreciation and emotions with people, even the ones closest to us. Our world has made it so difficult to feel like we can express ourselves in the way that we want or should. We are made to feel like exposing ourselves in that way shows some kind of weakness. Like making ourselves vulnerable to someone is something that we need to avoid if we want to either look strong or be okay. But instead, we should cherish the moments when we actually let ourselves be vulnerable and speak our mind when we need to. A lot of us have felt guilt at some point in our lives for not expressing our love or gratitude enough with someone else. We feel like we wasted time and let them feel like we didn’t care, when, truly, we did. Our friends and family are there for us through so many struggles, they support us as we face our initial diagnosis, they hold us up as we go through recovery, and they stand by us long after we leave our program. They are a big reason why we get through it and our one of our biggest outlets. The support and love that they give us is beyond words and to say we are grateful is an understatement.
We know that a lot of you would agree with that sentiment, which is why we want to remind you to give thanks to those people in your life, frequently. Take the time to reach out to others, even if it’s through a text message, and let them know that you appreciate them for everything that they do. They have stood by us through so much and we know that you feel gratitude for that. Never feel uncomfortable by telling people how you feel, never shy away from showing someone that you love them. Don’t wait for the hard moments to share it, either; let it be a random message in the middle of the day. Don’t wait for the “perfect moment”. Any moment is perfect because our love and ability to love someone else is perfect. We don’t need to wait to find that.
Showing Our Love to Others
Embrace your emotions, your ability to feel and connect with another human being, and speak up for it. Don’t let the world tell us that we can’t be who we are, or that we can’t be emotional; the world is just afraid to show its true self. But we know who we are and we know who the world truly is. Our lives are too rough and short to allow those moments to slip away from us. As survivors of mental illness and recovery, as people who have fought our emotions and conquered them, who have seen the ugly side of feeling, we know that our ability to love is worth everything. We know that it can’t be taken for granted and should do our best to express it each and every day, regardless of what the world says or thinks. We know what life is truly like, we know the best and the worst, and we can begin to change it towards appreciating the things that deserve it. Change can start with us and our actions can help be the catalyst to get the change that we want. Our vulnerability can be the strength that the world needs to finally allow our natural tendencies to become normal.
If you, or anyone you know, is struggling with anxiety or mental illness, do not hesitate to contact the team here at True Recovery. Our facility is located in Newport Beach, California, with our supportive housing located close to our campus in Costa Mesa. Take advantage of the local beaches, nature preserves, and Orange County community while we fight for you. Contact us at (866) 399-6528 or [email protected]