Overcoming Depression’s Refusal to Let This Be Easy
Mental illness is a large shadow to have over you. Whether you are struggling with depression itself or another struggle, there will always be sadness in it. It can be ever-constant, always present, and terribly difficult to deal with. When faced with overwhelming sadness, the simple act of getting out of bed every morning can be the hardest part of your day. Depression will make you want to stay in bed, never moving, never facing the day, as long as possible. Depression doesn’t want you to find something else to focus on or find a way out of your current state; depression wants you to struggle and it can be so easy to tell it no.
We know this. We know how it is to feel so heavy that you can’t move. We know how it feels when just the thought of opening your door sends thorns of terror digging into you. It’s so easy to let the seconds tick by, slipping away until you’ve missed your mark. At that point, there’s no point in trying. It’s too late to try and that helps you to not care about it. We know how depression will warp it all until you just simply don’t care. It’s just easier to handle when you don’t care.
It’s so difficult to overcome that feeling and to fight depression’s ever-growing grip on you. It makes it even harder when you start to look at it from the outside, when you can see everything and start to look at it as one big journey. But it’s so much easier to digest when you look at it as a process, and as with any process, it comes in steps. Break it down into smaller steps and work on it one at a time. Don’t look at your day as one giant step that needs to be accomplished; that doesn’t afford you the feeling of progress which will lead you to feeling defeated. From there, it’s an endless circle of spiralling downwards, over and over, until you’re at the bottom with nowhere left to go.
By viewing it all in increments, then achievement is much easier to see on the horizon. Then you can view every step as an accomplishment, instilling a sense of pride in yourself which you can carry forward and help yourself to keep going. Think of getting out of bed as the first step in your day. Instead of something that will take 24 hours to achieve, you now are faced with something that can take 24 seconds, and that’s on the longer side. You can even change it to sitting up. Make it an even shorter amount of time needed to accomplish it. You’re done. One thing accomplished before you’ve even completely woken up, even. Then swing your legs over the side. Another thing down. Now you’ve got two steps you’ve taken today and it has only taken a few minutes. Stand up. Your third checkmark off the list and now you’re up and moving. Take some literal steps. One, two, three, four, five. Keep them going until you’re at the door. A step full of smaller steps, a tidal wave of triumph and achievement that is propelling you to overcoming your desire to stay in bed. Open the door and that’s it. You’ve taken care of the first chapter of your day; you’ve already made so much progress in such a short amount of time. You have shown that you are in control and that you are not bound to what your sadness and depression is telling you.
Of course, all of this sounds so much easier than it really is. It’s easier to tell yourself that you can think of things this way, that you are in control, but it’s another thing entirely to actually truly believe that and act on it. One method to help with that is write that list down, break it all down as small as you want, and when you wake up in the morning, take that list off your bedside table and hold it with you, read it to yourself, and help motivate yourself to do it. Take as much time as you need with it too; it doesn’t mean to be an instant thing. You can allow yourself to take the time needed to do it all at your own pace. What’s important is that you do it. It’s important that you wake up, every day, and you do it. And with every day, with every repetition, you will find it to be easier to do. It will become routine which give you comfort in doing it. It will become second nature and then it will become habitual. With just the feeling of habit, you can find a sense of control. You can feel empowered by your ability to do what you need to do. You can find power in telling your depression that it has none.
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