Intervening: How to Become a Proactive Friend?

However difficult it might be to intervene in someone’s life, sometimes the harder choice is the right choice. Such as when you experience a situation in which you suspect a friend or family member and their children are in an unstable or unsafe environment because of their addiction. In that case, it is essential to know how to take action. However, when you are a friend or family member, you might feel conflicted over how to respond. You care about your friend and family members and you know that they care about their children, but you also know that their addiction interferes with the quality of their and their children’s lives. This conundrum could have you feeling trapped, but understand there are options to explore in getting this family help. It takes educating yourself and taking a proactive approach.

Fear of Helping Others

Too often do friends and family members hesitate to say something to their loved ones who are suffering because they fear confrontation or even resentment. When intervening in family affairs, some people hesitate because they do not want to be responsible for potentially separating them from their family. If you are a friend or relative, you might even feel you are acting deviously–going behind your loved one’s back and somehow telling them that you do not trust that they are capable of managing their addiction. You also understand how much they love their children, and perhaps you are hoping that someone else will intervene. However, what you cannot gloss over or justify is that they are suffering from an addiction and you can see how their addiction is negatively affecting their family.

Seek Professional Guidance

Waiting for resolve will enable and could even worsen the conditions for the children. The children need a voice. If you are too emotionally close to the situation and find it difficult to act on your own, you will want to consult a professional for guidance. A consultation with a professional will reassure you that you are not alone and are doing the right thing. It will also offer you options that you are likely not aware of and will even give you more confidence in your approach. Understand that your actions are coming from a place of love and concern.

Your first step could be to seek a professional who is qualified to mediate an intervention for the person addicted. This could be a therapist or a counselor–sometimes this is all it takes to motivate them toward seeking help. Your love and support might show them that people care about them and are willing to help them. Their choice to get help and persistence in managing their addiction will benefit them and their family moving forward and possibly avoid any legal intervention.

The Best Interest of Everybody

No intervention or professional automatically defaults to deciding that children will be removed from the home before first evaluating the situation. When intervening in a family affair that requires additional professional help, the effort is to act in all parties’ best interests. When Child Protective Services is called, a CPS agent will evaluate the home and living conditions. They will decide whether or not this is a suitable environment for the children. If someone in the household is suffering from addiction, they will also examine how or whether or not they are managing it. It must be stressed that these professionals exist to heal and help the family–not hurt them.

Child Advocate Attorney

If you suspect that there will likely be a discrepancy over custody or living conditions, consulting a Child Advocate Attorney will prepare you for any legal concerns. These include: what to expect in the courtroom, the process, and how and what specific rulings mean. A child advocate attorney is there to voice the concerns that the children cannot and they are not there to separate families.

A child advocate attorney works with families to find the best care for everybody, such as finding counseling for the children and parents, appropriate education and living conditions for children, and providing representation for both parents and children. The goal is to rehabilitate the family.

Judge’s Ruling

If the judge decides that alternative living arrangements are necessary, understand it is the best course of action based on the information about your loved one’s case. How long a family is apart will depend on how the parent who is suffering responds to rehab. Recognition and compliance from the parent to seek help for addiction will go a long way in the courtroom when deciding future visitation and custody rights.

Never hesitate to find your friend or family member help because you fear that they will get mad and hold it against you. The health and the well-being of the children should be the top priority. A good friend can make the hard decisions when they know that they are the right decisions. Your voice and proactive approach could help set a course to better the children’s future. Educating yourself by consulting a CPS agent, social worker, and child advocate attorney will help you feel the confidence to take action.

If you are still worried and allowing their environment to deteriorate, it is time to get help. True Recovery offers 24/7 care that is not only equipped to help with any personal concerns but any legal questions you might have about this process. To learn more, call us today at (866) 399-6528.