You’re a few months out of recovery, maybe even a few years, and it feels like you really have a grasp on life. Your relationships are going great, you are keeping your urges and temptations at bay, and you’ve found the best way to live your life that is conducive to helping you after recovery. You honestly feel like you are on top of the world, and like you’ve been through the worst of it; there is only one way to keep going: up. Then life hits you again.
A job loss. For whatever reason, you are let go, fired, or laid off, and now you are left wondering what happened and what you’re supposed to do now. When we are hit with these kinds of events, there is a period of time where we are in shock. We are paralyzed with regret, thinking, and fear. We are processing everything that has happened and trying to get a grasp on ourselves. At first, it’s easy for us to blame ourselves. Regardless of if it was caused by your actions or simply that the company couldn’t afford to keep you on, you feel like a letdown. You can be complimented all you want by your employer and told that your work was great, that this was all just an unfortunate combination of events. That doesn’t matter; at the end of the day, they’re the ones who will continue having a living and now you have none. They don’t have to worry about how they’re going to provide for themselves or their loved ones, they don’t have to concern themselves about making next month’s rent, and they don’t have to stress over the feeling that, once again, their life has come skidding to a jarring, unexpected halt.
No one blames you for feeling a little angry when it happens. It’s a perfectly valid and okay reaction to life taking a real harsh turn. What we don’t want is for you to blame yourself to the point that you choose that it’s not worth it. Even if you made a mistake that led to you losing your job, don’t guilt yourself. It’s easier said than done, we know, but holding a grudge against yourself is how even more issues can be formed. You sit there and you tear yourself down, beating yourself up over and over in your head, telling yourself that you’re not worth it, that you’re a waste. You let that voice in your head begin to tell you that your life is ruined and you can’t get it back. You have brought it past the point of no return. It’s not though.
You Can Take This and Grow from It
Look at what happened, if there was something that you did. What could you change? What could have gone differently or better? Yes, there may be some blame given to you and it’s okay to feel some guilt. Guilt means that you care enough to feel bad for what you have done. It’s a good thing. But don’t let it completely ruin who you view yourself. We are all human and we will all make mistakes. Just because you have made this mistake doesn’t mean that you can’t keep going. There are plenty of jobs out there that you can find. It may take a lot of time and a lot of effort, but it is out there.
The process of job hunting is excruciating a lot of times, we know. It can be hard to feel like you are staying afloat and like you are making progress. The unfortunate reality of applying to jobs is that a lot of it is so dependent on luck. It depends on who sees your application and when. You could be the most qualified candidate in the world for a job, but your application is buried under numerous others and never seen. Again, don’t blame yourself for a lack of success. In these kinds of situations, there are going to be more rejections or failures than successes. You have to keep going and believe in yourself. You can fix it, you will figure it out, and it does get better. Take it from us, we have all been in a situation where we feel lost again. It sucks, especially after going through recovery and feeling like you finally have a grasp. Unfortunately, there is no line we can cross where we become immune to life’s cruelty. But it doesn’t mean we have taken a step backward; you are still going forward even if your job is lost.
Your life and success are not completely dependent on your job and income. We know it’s hard to be hit with something like a job loss after going through so much mentally, emotionally, and physically. But remember how you got through it, and remember that you can get through this. Life likes to keep punching but that doesn’t mean that you can’t keep punching back.
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