The Underlying Sadness and How to Let Ourselves Feel It
Our mental struggles and desire to go through recovery all stem from our emotions, as do almost everything that we do in our lives. Our entire lives are predicated on how we are feeling and applies to how we cope with mental illness. As we all know, there are many emotions, and different ways to feel them, but through everything, there is one emotion that causes great dismay: sadness. Sadness, when in recovery, can play a huge part of our lives. It gives us a contrast from our greatest joy, elevating that joy to a higher level. It leads us to make certain decisions or act a certain way. Even more than anger, envy, or anything else; sadness is a big part of living life in recovery. Our sadness, however, does not have to be the defining factor of our lives.
We want you to know that it is okay to feel sad. It is okay to feel, and there is no shame in our emotions. Sadness is especially difficult to understand this fact with, as it is one of the few emotions that can mire us in a place where we want to feel better but absolutely cannot. This feeling of helplessness with our emotions can result in a mindset where we feel wrong for having feelings. That said, there is never anything wrong, nor is there any shame, in feeling sad. Feeling sad is a reminder of your own humanity, that you are alive, breathing, and feeling. Remember that emotions are only temporary, and will pass with time. If you are experiencing severe sadness, we encourage you to speak with someone about it, but we also want you to know that it is okay to let yourself feel it out
Finding things in life that make us happy and feel lighter is essential as we go through recovery. When faced with a large amount of sadness, go back to things that you know will make you happy. Pick up an old hobby. Push yourself through any lack of inspiration or motivation and you can find that what you loved in the first place is still there. Don’t let sadness tell you that you can’t do things, can’t engage in certain activities, or that you are not worth it. Don’t let sadness cause you to disengage from the things you want to do. We know it is easier said than done, but it is possible. As we always say, you are in control of your life and how you respond to your emotions. It may not feel like it in the moment but it is always true. You are in control; not your sadness. Don’t let it bring you down. Explore the different things that you know can bring you joy and reach out to someone, professional or not, to talk about what you are going through. You are worthy of being heard and deserve to feel however you may choose.
There is validity in everything that you feel. The emotions that arise from events, people’s actions or behavior, or anything in life are valid and okay. Stigmas that classify these feelings as wrong are not true. In an ironic way, this way of thinking is doing just that. It is letting the fear of feeling control our actions and this prohibits us from living our best lives. There is beauty in feeling and we don’t ever want you to feel like you can’t express that beauty inside of you. The complexities of being human are true gifts that we shouldn’t take for granted. This means letting all the emotions run through us, expressing ourselves however we want, and not being afraid of judgment or prejudice because of it. You are safe in your expression, and no matter what, you have a place to be you with us. In recovery, amongst your peers, you are safe here. We believe in the power of feeling and believe that our recovery process will help you see that as well. We value your emotions and you as a person. You are worthy of praise and respect for letting yourself feel. No matter what people may say.
If you, or anyone you know, is struggling with anxiety or mental illness, do not hesitate to contact the team here at True Recovery. Our program, founded in 2014, is built around finding what’s best for you to overcome your addiction. Our facility is located in Newport Beach, California, with our supportive housing located close to our campus in Costa Mesa. Take advantage of the local beaches, nature preserves, and Orange County community while we fight for you. Contact us at (866) 399-6528 or [email protected]