Embracing the Opportunity to Take Another Path
It is easy to believe that we are supposed to find our paths early in our lives and stick to that path for as long as we can. Our systems and society are set up to push us towards figuring ourselves out before we even graduate high school. We are meant to enter college and choose a major and area of study that we want to pursue for the rest of our lives. That alone, without the influence of mental health, presents complications and stress in us. We can feel stuck or railroaded into following one set path that was made when we barely even knew who we were. Then, when mental illness flares up, we are faced with even greater stress while we struggle with not letting it derail our lives. These things demand a great amount of attention and time, we have to focus on it in order to live with it. This can play on our already present fear of not straying from the path we have been asked to go down. We are afraid that our mental illness will cause us to go down another path, derailing everything, and as a result, we will have to start over from square one. Maybe that is perfectly okay. Maybe it is a good thing to drop the baggage and the weight you carry and make the move towards being a better you.
We don’t need to feel like we have to stick to the plan; we don’t even have to have a plan at all. Despite what we are told, we have agency and control of the course our life takes. Just because we are told that we have to have it all figured out by the time we are 18 doesn’t mean that we have to have our whole lives figured out. Mental illness changes us, as you know, and once we are through treatment we face the changes that it is going to bring about. As we have talked about before, your life is going to continue to change beyond the walls of your program. You are going to have to adjust everything to be able to handle what your mental illness is going to bring with it. This means that there could be drastic changes you have to make. Perhaps the path you were on before is a leading cause of stressors that have caused your condition to form. Maybe your place of living was what made you feel depressed and low. Maybe your friend circle was providing toxicity and caused you to struggle so much. These are all things that need to change if you are going to live a healthier life post-recovery.
There is fear that will come with that, especially given the mold we have been told to fall into and follow. Don’t be afraid to take that leap. Let your life change and flow organically, and reject suffering through things for the sake of not letting others down. You won’t let anyone down by changing your path. It is never too late to make a change and pursue something else. Making a change can be a huge boon to your mental state of being and make you feel better. You can become a whole new person by changing directions and taking a risk. That can do so much to improve our emotional quality. We know how scary it is to think about making that change, but it will be worth it. It will always be worth it to change for your health’s sake.
Taking those chances and making a leap of faith can be a huge milestone in your life. It can be the turning point you need. You are out of treatment, freshly emerging with another big milestone, the whole world in front of you. Seize that opportunity and make the changes that you have to. Don’t be afraid of failure; if anything, your ability to change makes you a success. The strength you show in making the change is monumental and admirable. We know it isn’t easy and we know the fear that can feel paralyzing at times. Your world can change, and you can be the catalyst for it. We do not have to be set in our ways and can make the decision on our own to become better people, changing ourselves and those around us. Be brave, proceed with confidence, and let yourself become someone new. Be the person you want to be, not who you think you should be. Embrace that and love whatever path you want to take.
If you, or anyone you know, is struggling with anxiety or mental illness, do not hesitate to contact the team here at True Recovery. Our program, founded in 2014, is built around finding what’s best for you to overcome your addiction. Our facility is located in Newport Beach, California, with our supportive housing located close to our campus in Costa Mesa. Take advantage of the local beaches, nature preserves, and Orange County community while we fight for you. Contact us at (866) 399-6528 or [email protected]