How to Not Let This Keep You From Living Your Life

It’s easy to let your life become solely focused on getting better. It makes sense that you would try to focus as much of your attention on helping yourself than anything else. This is especially true if you’re enrolling in an inpatient care program, since they are designed for you to spend your days focusing on getting better. But what about outpatient care? What about the people whose condition may not necessitate going in to live at a facility while undergoing recovery, but still need the help of professionals? While they, of course, need to allow themselves the space and the time to get better, it can also be important for them to continue to live their lives. They still have friends, family, and loved ones that deserve their attention and time, as well as social commitments and other things that can greatly help their recovery process. 

Mental illness is incredibly talented at knocking you down for the count. Depression likes to creep up on you so that when you wake up, getting out of bed is the last thing you want to do. Anxiety loves to seep into your system so that the very thought of social interaction can be downright terrifying. Giving into those mindsets is understandable; play it safe and let the feelings pass. But there can be an unhealthy pattern that arises out of that lifestyle. Sure, safe is always good when it comes to dealing with a mental illness; never sacrifice your safety in order to appease others. But by repeatedly giving into what your mental illness is telling your brain to do, you are letting it dictate your life. You are letting it tell you what to do and when to do it. Although it is not a sentient being, you are still giving it control and allowing it to decide. Again, there are limits, but you should always strive for a feeling of control. 

Even just one moment of pushing yourself to go out can be all you need to change your trajectory and your state of mind. It can be a domino effect that will ease your recovery process tenfold. As we have talked about numerous times before, you take it a step at a time. Engaging with social interactions, allowing yourself to be in those situations, can do wonders for getting your body to focus on something else. It’s a hard thing to grasp, putting yourself in a place of vulnerability, we know. It will be hard at first. You will feel uneasy, uncertain, and even anxious about what will happen. In a weird way, it can even be helpful to make sure you can’t opt out. This sounds like you’re trapping yourself and maybe that’s true, but we’re not saying it’s necessary. If it sounds like something that would not work for you, then do not do it. But for some of you, it can help you get a mindset of “You’re here, this is the situation, and you can adapt to it”. You can adapt to it. Whether you are “trapped” or not, you can adapt your surroundings by engaging in them. Speak with your friends, people you trust. Be honest with them and let them know the fear you are feeling. They will watch out for you and you immediately have that support system there, ready for you. Just keep going. Keep pushing yourself to have conversations, focus on other things, and soon enough, you can find that you don’t feel anxious anymore, you don’t feel afraid. For the first time in awhile, you may find that you feel normal, or rather, how you used to. You might not even realize that it’s happening, you may be completely engrossed in your environment and not even notice that fear melt away. It will happen subconsciously and before you know it, you feel good. Really good. 

That can be all it takes. You realize that you feel fine, you feel like you, and when you come back home, you know you can feel that way again. Even if that feeling comes creeping back in, which it very well could, you know that it’s not permanent. So often, we feel surrounded, engulfed in our turmoil, that we feel like we are not ever going to get through it. It can feel so dark that we can’t see that light on the other side. But with just one moment of clarity and time spent free of your mental blocks, you can see that there is an end, that you can beat it. 

Allow yourself to have those small victories as they can carry a lot for you when going through recovery. Every moment of triumph matters, and you can reach a point where victories become a pattern, when they become common. From there, you can get to the end. From there, nothing can stop you. 


If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction or mental illness, do not hesitate to contact the team here at Our program, founded in 2014, is built around finding what’s best for you to overcome your addiction. Our facility is located in Newport Beach, California, with our supportive housing located close to our campus in Costa Mesa. Take advantage of the local beaches, nature preserves, and Orange County community while we fight for you. Contact us at (866) 399-6528 and [email protected]