A Look at How Relationship Can Change Through Recovery
Mental illnesses can unfortunately have a negative impact on the relationships in your life. Whether it be friends, family, or otherwise, the strain of these illnesses and undergoing recovery can completely change or damage things, permanently. This holds especially true for any romantic relationships in your life. Prior to recovery, the strain is felt as you struggle to figure out what is going on with you and how you can fix it, and then during the recovery, the strain is felt by you having to dedicate so much of yourself to getting better, that the relationship may not be getting the attention or focus it needs. What’s more is that even after recovery, the strain is still felt. Regardless of if it’s a relationship that was formed before recovery, during recovery, or after recovery, your experience and your processes are still going to be present and active in your life.
The good news is that getting through recovery allows you a greater sense of time and focus. Recovery is there to help you get things under control and learn the tools necessary to cope with your struggles after the program has ended. You are now able to go through the rest of you life knowing what it is that you need and what you need from others to help you. It helps you get a better definition for what a relationship with would look like. Of course, this sparks the problem of that meshing with your partner. They are their own unique individual as well, even if they haven’t struggled in the same way that you have. Their needs are deserving of being catered to just as much as yours are. There is a good chance that your relationship will be significantly different after going through recovery. You may be tasked with making up for lost time, having spent so much of yours recently to help yourself. Ideally and what we hope for your sake is what happens, is that you and your partner are able to get through the recovery process together. Partners and significant others can be a huge help as someone to lean on and get support from. Sacrifices often need to be made in order for the relationship to survive while one of the people involved is able to get the help they need. And the partner not going through the recovery process may be sacrificing more than you would give them credit for.
That partner is the one who is having to watch their loved one go through something terrible. They feel hopeless and powerless, feeling like there is nothing they can do to help them. It’s hard to be in that position as it can breed a sense of uselessness and inadequacy. Or even resentment can form from it and now that resentment can cause problems in the relationship. If there are children involved in the partnership, they are the partner left having to take care of them, especially if the afflicted enters an inpatient program and physically is not around to help.There’s a lot of pressure and responsibility that falls on that partner to keep things going and make sure that everything is how it should be. Just as you change throughout it all, they surely will change as well.
This is why patience and love are key in navigating a romantic relationship after recovery. While you have your newfound tools and necessities that you deserve to share and be present in the relationship, you also have to understand that they have the same. Understanding where they are coming from and that they have done what they have done because they truly care about you can help an incredible amount in making sure that the relationship continues to grow and thrive. It is a situation that needs to be approached with both sides in mind so that no side of the issue feels unheard or uncared for. Luckily, your journey through recovery and the lessons you’ve learned can help you approach this issue from a place of understanding and compassion.
Throughout your entire journey, you have had to approach yourself with compassion. You had to learn how to look at yourself with understanding, where you are coming from and you know the huge difference that made in reaching a place of joy and content in yourself. Now it’s time to apply that same mindset to your relationship, and help both parties reach that same place, help each other be on the same page. You both care for each other, otherwise why would you be romantically involved with one another? You don’t have to let that relationship suffer because of what you are going through. You absolutely must address your illness and make sure that the environment you are in is healthy for you, but you can still put the work in and let it thrive. You deserve to be happy in your relationship and so do they; mental illness and all.
If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction or mental illness, do not hesitate to contact the team here at TrueRecovery.com. Our program, founded in 2014, is built around finding what’s best for you to overcome your addiction. Our facility is located in Newport Beach, California, with our supportive housing located close to our campus in Costa Mesa. Take advantage of the local beaches, nature preserves, and Orange County community while we fight for you. Contact us at (866) 399-6528 and [email protected]