We all hope that the work we put into our lives will one day pay off in some rewarding way. You put the time and effort into something with the goal of being in a better place at the other end. We work in our careers for decades with the goal of retiring and having the money we need to live our lives. We put in the work into our romantic relationships with the idea that we find the person we can live the rest of our lives with. We put in the work at the gym to become healthier and get into better shape so that we can feel better about our bodies. We work on ourselves in recovery to improve our behaviors, our mindsets, and our emotions, with the goal of reaching a point where we feel emotionally stable and fulfilled. That’s what we all want in this; to feel like we can handle stress again and not let it drag us down. Which is why it’s so incredibly frustrating when we can’t find that feeling.
We don’t mean that you won’t ever feel that way. In fact, there will be plenty of moments during your life where you feel okay and happy. There will be times when you feel like you have it all under control and can take on any challenge that comes your way. But then there will be times when you feel like those moments are taken away from you. Where you feel like the rug has been yanked out from under you, out of nowhere, and you’re struggling to gain your footing back. We have all been there and we know how you feel. After recovery, we like to believe that we earned some sense of peace. We don’t mean to say that we are entitled, but simply that the work we have done is deserving of helping us find happiness. We expect to leave our recovery program and have it figured out. We hope that whatever system of karma that exists in the world will see what we have gone through and give us some good in return. We hope that there is some kind of fair system for us.
Dealing with Life’s Incessant Hardships
Unfortunately, life doesn’t care about fair. It doesn’t see the work we do and decides that we deserve the easy stuff. It’s not about who deserves what in life, but just what happens and how we deal with it. It will still keep coming at us and throwing whatever it wants in our path, and often, it will throw everything at you at once. There is truth to the phrase “when it rains, it pours”. It will come in waves and with power, it will try to break you down and it may succeed in that regard. You may find yourself in another place of feeling lost, lonely, or broken. These moments know how to make us feel low again; lower than we have felt in a long time. They remind us of how it felt before recovery and how hard it was for us to feel worthwhile in those moments.
But we assure you that those feelings are not true. You are worth something, you are more than worth something. As hard as it may be, we have to keep rolling with the punches that life throws at us. When we were at the bottom of ourselves before recovery, we didn’t see a way out. We had no idea how we were going to be able to climb out of our hole and into the sunlight again. We found the light at the other end, we found our way out of that hole, and we will find our way out of this one too. Within that time, you had to completely rewrite yourself and find a way to change for the better. You accomplished something that many people can’t even fathom attempting to think about. This isn’t that; this is just moving on and figuring things outside of ourselves out, which is easier. It isn’t easy but it is easier.
Life is always going to be throwing hardships in our way. It is going to hit us over and over again, trying to knock us down and out. But we don’t have to let it. We can take those hits and we can keep going. We are stronger now than ever before and we can handle this. We know it feels like you can’t catch a break, but there will be a break eventually. With enough effort and the right mindset, there will always be another side. You have found that light before so you know it’s there. All it takes is the desire to keep moving forward, which is already something you know all too well how to do.
If you, or anyone you know, is struggling with anxiety or mental illness, do not hesitate to contact the team here at True Recovery. Our program, founded in 2014, is built around finding what’s best for you to overcome your addiction. Our facility is located in Newport Beach, California, with our supportive housing located close to our campus in Costa Mesa. Take advantage of the local beaches, nature preserves, and Orange County community while we fight for you. Contact us at (866) 399-6528 and [email protected]