“One is too many, and a thousand is never enough.”
The desire and obsession to control our drinking/using is one of the major roadblocks in achieving long-term sobriety in which we must overcome. While to the rest of the world our problem is typically extremely clear, we often are blinded by the illusion that we can control our addiction.
When consequences happen, we either attempt a new way to “control” our using or simply carry on just as we always have. Here we take a look at our false belief we can control our addictions.
We believe we can control ourselves after the first drink/drug
Examples include promising to limit ourselves to only a few drinks, promising to be at a certain place later in that day, or promising to “just” drink and not use other substances.
If we take an honest look at our history, however, we will see that we truly have no control of our actions once the first drink or drug has entered our system. Despite our most earnest efforts, we simply have lost all will power at that point. It is crucial in sobriety to realize that we are perfectly in control of our actions until after we take the first drink/drug.
We are obsessed with finding the right combination to control our use
We will often times try to successfully use by attempting to control what or how we use. Examples of this include switching from liquor to only beer, alcohol instead of drugs, or snorting instead of injecting. Most any of us can recount countless attempts in which we made over the years to try and control our use.
The reality is any of these attempts to control our use ultimately failed. Replacing one substance for another, for example, usually always resulted in a new addiction. The fact is, we are simply powerless to control our using when it comes to addictive substances.
We blame our problems on everything except for the drink or drug
While every in our lives typically will see clearly that it is drugs or alcohol that is our problem, we often times will have blinders on to this fact. When consequences result directly from our drinking and/or using, we blame our problems on our surroundings instead.
Examples of this include blaming a DUI on the officer or bad luck, blaming friends we lose because of our addiction on their actions, or blaming our employer for getting fired when addiction caused our work to suffer.
This kind of twisted perception leads us to the belief that if we could control our surroundings and our loved ones, we would no longer have consequences. The reality is, even if we could control our surroundings, we would still not be able to drink or use successfully without consequences.
This article is intended for those considering a new way of life, free of the pain of drug and alcohol addiction. For more information on recovery and anyone seeking help with addiction and substance abuse problems, please call True Recovery at (844) 744-8783 or visit us online.