Understanding your uncertainty

Recent regulations to help manage the safety of the public might have caused you to make life-altering adjustments. By now, you might have exhausted yourself in your attempts to return some normalcy or peace to your day. Mounting fear and anxiety might have caused your efforts to feel aimless or overzealous. This is because since these regulations have been put in place, there has been an overwhelming feeling of uncertainty pressing upon such efforts. This uncertainty might have caused you to do too much in an effort to control the situation as best as you can. However, perhaps trying to control too much is the direct root of why you are experiencing so much fear and anxiety.

Accept What You Cannot Control

Uncertainty is a part of life. While you have control over many things, there are certain things that you cannot control. This is further perpetuated by the recent pandemic, which has escalated life’s challenges by creating financial woes, job loss, and sickness. It has also led to what is most likely your biggest question right now: “When things will return to normal?”

Worrying Is Not a Tool

Worrying is a natural emotion. Worrying causes you to think about what may or may not happen in the future. However, worrying generally creates more anxiety around a situation. You might listen to what your worrying is telling you because in some way it can seem like worrying can give you control over a future event. You might even believe that by worrying, you can somehow manifest a solution to your problems, but oftentimes worrying only raises more questions and concerns you have about the future. So, instead of trying to use worrying as a tool by sitting with your worries, try to adjust your mindset.

Be Present

Saying things like, “Summer is canceled” is a negative way to handle the current situation. While it is okay to acknowledge your fears, try to look at today. Are you sitting? Having a cup of tea or coffee? Watching a movie? Is it sunny, is it raining? Minding your surroundings is a good way to ground your thoughts in the present time. Worrying will always take place in the future—never now. By looking at the now, you can reassure yourself that your fears are not happening now, so enjoy the moment.

Take Action Over the Things You Can Control

Much like worrying, instead of fretting over the future, avoid dwelling on what has already happened. If you are out of work or worried about your health, then implement practices to combat such concerns.

Active Problem-Solving

Take this as an opportunity to look for online work or even grow your network of contacts. You might surprise yourself of the opportunities waiting for you if you just motivate yourself to search for them. When it comes to your health, practice cleanliness: clean surfaces, wash your hands, stay away from large crowds, look out for those more vulnerable to the disease than you are—basically, do your part. By doing these practices, you can shift your mindset from ineffective worrying to active problem-solving.

Give Yourself a Break

While there are plenty of opportunities to explore new avenues and learn more about yourself and grow, it does not mean that you need to fulfill every life goal. What most people are failing to recognize is that just because you are staying home, it does not mean that you necessarily have more free time. How you manage time in your day should not revolve around how much you can accomplish; there need to be moments where you take time for yourself. Have trivial conversations with friends about TV shows or music—things that do not lead to a culmination of the uncertainties you and your friends are feeling.

Make Time for Relaxation

Relaxation techniques are essential tools to carry with you at any point in your life. Taking time in your day to meditate, work on breathing, practice yoga, or be mindful are great ways to bring peace and stability to your day. It is important to remember to practice such activities during this time.

Maintain Good Habits

You will want to continue to focus on the things that work—maintaining a good diet, keeping a consistent sleeping schedule, and exercise will all help keep your mind from wandering too far into the future. These habits will also help you manage your stress and energy to continue to get through this time at home.

Sit With Your Uncertainty

Instead of resisting your uncertainty by trying to control what has not happened, allow yourself to experience the discomfort. Like managing any emotion in your recovery, work through why you are feeling uncertain. This practice will allow you to identify the triggers that surround your uncertainty—and by facing uncertainty, you will realize that these emotions, like any other, will pass.

Nobody can predict the future. You should let go of an imagined future and accept that uncertainty is a natural part of life. Focus on the solvable things and make that your daily effort—know that you and the world are facing these challenges right now. If you are still in need of guidance, True Recovery is available 24/7 to help with the specific needs of your worries. For more information, please call us today at (866)-399-6528.

While you have control over many things, there are certain things that you cannot control. If you are struggling in your recovery, call us at (866) 399-6528.