How to Identify If You, or Someone You Know, Needs Help 

Our society is becoming more and more in tune with the amount of abuse that exists within our world. We are becoming more aware of its existence, how it works, and how it can seep into every aspect of our lives. We are starting to have more works of art like The Handmaid’s Tale and The Invisible Man, which explore the realities and horrors of abusive situations. It took far too long for us to be conscious of this, but the fact that this kind of progression is happening is still very encouraging. Unfortunately, it can be challenging to identify these things even with all the changes we have made. People are still unsure of what can be defined as abuse. People are uncertain if they should bring it up, and people are afraid of what it means. We can’t make the situation any easier. These kinds of things will always be confusing and hard to cope with. However, we can still give you the signs to look for, whether you are concerned that someone you know is a victim of abuse or you, yourself, are a victim. 

Speaking up for Victims

 Being on the outside looking in is a difficult thing for a lot of us. No matter what our concerns may be or what we may think is happening, it can be hard to speak up. We are afraid of crossing lines and angering an abuser. We have the idea that it is best for us to not get involved in other peoples’ lives and problems. While this may be true, to an extent, we should absolutely be willing to step up and speak out if there is abuse going on. There are several things that we can look out for that can help us know when we should say something. If a person is continually showing injuries and making excuses for them, they may be suffering from abuse. Other symptoms include frequently checking in with their partner, worrying about pleasing their partner, missing out on social events, or not having money on hand. All these things can point to a person being controlled by their partner. In such a situation, their partner is manipulating them and controlling their actions. If you suspect abuse, speak up. Talk to them. Their life may be on the line. Ask them if anything is wrong and approach the situation from a place of love. Let them know that you care, that you are there for them, and that you respect their decisions. They may not respond the way you want, but you have to respect their response. Not doing so will only lead to further difficulties. 

Taking Steps to Liberate Yourself

 If you are a victim of abuse, it can be challenging to understand it or see that it is happening. Our emotions and fears cloud our judgment, making it harder to know that we are in danger. Some things to watch out for are bullying, threatening, or belittling behavior. If your partner accuses you of having an affair or tells you how you should look, understand that this behavior is unacceptable. If your partner controls your money, cuts you off from friends and family, or makes you ask for permission to see people, you should seek help immediately. An abuser may also lock you in or out of the house, abandon you, or physically assault you. It is hard to see these signs of abuse through our emotions. After all, we cared for this person enough to enter a committed relationship with them. Sometimes, that makes it hard for us to see them for who they really are. Abuse is a dangerous and terrifying situation, and you deserve better. If you are in an abusive relationship, do not hesitate to call someone. A friend, family, doctor, or even the police can help you get out. You can also call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. Call from a friend’s house, or somewhere you feel safe. Have an escape plan ready with clothes, relevant documents, and any other necessary items. 

 We know how scary these situations can be, but we want you to understand your worth. You don’t deserve to suffer from abuse, and you have the power to help someone else who is experiencing it. If we keep these signs in mind, we can do even better at eliminating abuse and ending it where it starts. 

If you, or anyone you know, is struggling with anxiety or mental illness, do not hesitate to contact the team here at True Recovery. Our program, founded in 2014, is built around finding what’s best for you to overcome your addiction. Our facility is located in Newport Beach, California, with our supportive housing located close to our campus in Costa Mesa. Take advantage of the local beaches, nature preserves, and Orange County community while we fight for you. Contact us at (866) 399-6528 or [email protected]