Throughout the process of recovery, we are encouraged to talk about our emotions and feelings. Whether it be speaking with a therapist or doctor, alone, or speaking in a group amongst your peers, we are made to feel welcome in sharing what we are going through. It is a comforting feeling when we realize just how safe we are to open up in a group. When we feel like we are among people who will not judge us or think differently of us, we feel so much more confident in ourselves to share. And even more, it helps to see that there are other people like us and that we are not alone in struggling. When we leave recovery, though, we can feel like we are losing that resource. We are no longer attending our meetings or appointments, we are no longer regularly seeing the same people who we have come to depend on and feel connected to. It is changing that can take some getting used to. It can be difficult to adjust to not being able to speak our minds and vocalize our thoughts and fears. So much of why we talk is because doing so helps us to feel better about what is going on, and feel a better sense of understanding. As we have said before, simply speaking thoughts into existence can give you clarity that you didn’t have before. So what do you do when this is gone? The important thing to remember is that there are still people to talk to, but there is also another way that you can still put your thoughts into words: writing.
Your support system is full of people who will listen to you. You don’t necessarily need that person to be a professional or someone who has experienced similar things to you. Sometimes, you just need someone to listen. And a perspective that is outside of the world of mental illness can also be incredibly important to have. As we said, some of us aren’t seeking advice in talking to people; sometimes, we just want to be heard. So we don’t need the person listening to know about something that we don’t, we just need them to be willing. We need our words to not be spoken to the walls around us and we need to feel like we are being heard, even if the answers can’t be given to us.
The Benefit of Writing When We Feel Like We Can’t Talk Anymore
But more than that, there is writing. You don’t necessarily have to speak words into existence, you can put them to paper if you want. Keep a journal, write a story or a script, get into poetry, there are so many options for you to pursue to just simply write your thoughts down. By keeping a journal, you can feel like the book itself is listening to you. It’s kind of the premise behind journaling anyway; feeling like you have a private place to tell all your thoughts and what is going on in your life. So why not use that for your thoughts when you have left recovery? It is not a childish thing to do, no matter how much of a stereotype it might be. Or put your thoughts into a more story-based format. Write a story based on the experiences you have had and see what kind of therapy that brings. Sometimes projecting your emotions into a story that isn’t necessarily the true story of what happened can bring some insight into it that you never had before. Seeing a character from an outside perspective can do a lot for a person when dealing with life after recovery. It will bring you a new way of thinking while also an avenue for you to get it all out there. You are still putting your thoughts out into existence and freeing yourself of the burden of feeling like you are the only one who has to carry them. And who knows, maybe you will have the next Oscar-winner on your hands!
Writing can be an incredible substitute for anyone who feels like they are losing their resources to talk about what is going on. Remember, you can still find those kinds of resources, either in your own support system at home or even finding groups to talk with. But you also have the beauty of writing to rely on. Let the words pour out from your fingers either through a pen or a keyboard. Let a story, either real or not, be created and let it thrive off what you have experienced throughout your journey. There is something that should be told in what happened to you; let that story out and not only will you bring to light something that deserves to be known, but also feel catharsis yourself. There is a beauty to what we go through and writing it down can be the best way to see it.
If you, or anyone you know, is struggling with anxiety or mental illness, do not hesitate to contact the team here at True Recovery. Our program, founded in 2014, is built around finding what’s best for you to overcome your addiction. Our facility is located in Newport Beach, California, with our supportive housing located close to our campus in Costa Mesa. Take advantage of the local beaches, nature preserves, and Orange County community while we fight for you. Contact us today at (866) 399-6528.